Paul’s method in his OP is scary-similar to what I do for my red sauce (I’m not Italian, so don’t feel comfortable calling it “gravy”), as vaguely outlined below:
I usually use one pot.
To start, I melt a pat or two of butter in a pan and mix in some olive oil (maybe a T?), and saute some diced onions therein. Once lightly browned/carmelized, I’ll add some minced shallot – maybe a Tablespoon, or two. If I’m having red wine with the meal, I’ll skip garlic. If I’m having white wine with dinner, I’ll add 1 or 2 cloves of minced garlic. If I’m not having any wine with dinner, I’ll add 3 or 4 minced cloves of garlic. I’ll sweat these aromatics for a few minutes, then add the meat.
I prefer spicy Italian sausage, but am willing to do ground beef, ground pork, or ground turkey. If I have no other meat option avail. to me, I’ll even sometimes do cubed chicken. I’ll brown the meat with the aromatics (if using chicken, I’ll cook the chicken at least half way through at this stage).
Then, I’ll add the following:
1 big can of Hunt’s tomato sauce (prob. the 29 oz.'er?)
1 can of diced or crushed tomatoes, with their liquid
sometimes I’ll throw-in some tomato paste, too (1 - 3 T.)
I’ll cook this for as long as my wife allows, throwing in some water from time to time if the sauce is thickening too much (but no water additions in the last 45 min. to hour). I try to keep it below a simmer.
During the last 30 - 45 min., I’ll sometimes throw-in a splash of vodka.
Any dried herbs I use get added with about one hour left. I usually add some more diced onions at this point, and sometimes some bell pepper, too. If I’m going to use any fresh tomatoes in the sauce, I’ll add them at this point (mostly for texture, rather than taste). I like to add some combination of the following dried herbs/spices (but never add all of them – honestly, I rarely use more than 3 of these at any one time):
thyme (always use this)
ground fennel seeds (almost always)
oregeno (sometimes)
basil (sometimes)
marjoram (sometimes)
crushed red pepper flakes (sometimes; never if having red wine with dinner)
sage (rarely)
tarragon (rarely)
Any fresh herbs that I add are added instead of their dried counterpart, and are added in the last 10 min to 60 min., depending on herb. I’ll sometimes add some thick-sliced white mushrooms at this point, too. Will sometimes use any of the following fresh herbs:
Basil
Tarragon
Rosemary
If I’m doing an orange sauce, I’ll make the following changes:
… on second thought, that’s probably left to another thread!